According to US government statistics Bullying is very prevalent and may effect 1 out of 3 children. In dealing with the Bully we are often dealing with issues of anger. This problem seems to be most prevalent in middle school at an age when a child may be dealing with many issues including hormonal issues.
If a child regularly exhibits defiant and angry behavior either in the home environment or at school this balancing and centering program may help make a significant difference in the offending child’s way of being in the world and interacting with siblings, other children and most important his or her own self image.
The program emphasizes Self forgiveness, Embracing Courage and Strength and Experiencing kindness.
The program can also be useful for a parent who is exasperated in dealing with their child, and needs to regain self control and a feeling of internal strength and compassion and kindness for their errant child.
This Yoga Nidra based therapy does not purport to get to the root causes of the anger but the program will help to diffuse the anger, and to create balance and help empower the person to view themselves in more constructive ways. The program works if used daily and it is recommended that the kindness program be used as an adjunct program to this program. In this program the child is taught to use the powerful healing tool of releasing anger and self forgiveness and the next part of the practice helps the child embrace courage and strength as a more acceptable way of being in the world.
This therapy which is based on 4000 year old Yoga methodologies and some methods from NLP (neuro lingusitic programming) works as an adjunct therapy or standalone therapy with additional counseling to help children who are aggressive, oppositional, bullies or children who have rage or anger issues. This process helps children to deal with their aggressive instincts, and thru this process and NLP the client chooses to create a more constructive and humanistic identity.
The process also utilizes Yogic body awareness and consciousness of the breath as an integrative procedure fostering self awareness and an experience of wholeness which contributes to a sense of connectedness, well being and integration. The process works best when administered daily. It is highly recommended that the patient listen to the Releasing Anger and Forgiveness Recording at least 3 times a week and the Empowering Courage and Kindness Recordings each twice weekly. The program is a powerful program for transformation and the patient, parents and family members as well as school teachers will notice the change in the child. And again, I encourage parents of a child dealing with anger issues to also listen to these recordings .
There is also a recording for the child who has been bullied or traumatized by another and who is trying to deal with the pain. The process is identical to the process that is used to help children with anger issues. However, the root emotion is different and it is important to identify the root emotion and feelings that are engendered when that root emotion is triggered. This is not a process like hypnosis where the patient is taken back to moments of pain and or trauma and describes feelings and is guided to reorganize the experience, but rather we are using more symbolic energies as a way of packaging traumas and eradicating them. There is a rewiring if you will or a reintegration of the person.
In dealing with a child who is traumatized and feels hurt by a bully or is experiencing other forms of hurt whether current or past, we have developed a program to help them identify their emotional issues and the same process works amazingly well to help the shy, timid or reactive child to utilize forgiveness as a form of healing while strengthening their intention to be strong and courageous in life.
Both programs should be used in conjunction with the heart/kindness meditation which affirms the life long value of embracing kindness as a way of being in the world. And by embracing kindness one opens their life to experiencing joy. This process is effective and may even be effective as a stand alone treatment. I welcome the participation of teachers and other professionals who wish to use this program and also welcome feedback.