Most conflicts in life stem from negative emotions – fear, anger and insecurity are some of the leading causes of not only stress, but an overall unhappy life. At times, it may seem like these aren’t simply plagues of your personality, but characteristics of you – certain negative parts of you that can’t be shaken off. This can lead to a bevy of unhopeful thoughts, but the most important thing to keep in mind is the power of the body mind and spirit. Luckily, with the help of meditation as well as self-forgiveness, your life can be turned around, especially if you’re practicing these helpful tips in the environment of Yoga Nidra a form of deep Yoga meditation, and NLP creating positive mindsets with powerful intentions.
The most important part of controlling one’s anger or fear is to understand where the root of the problem is, i.e. the trigger. By finding the trigger, you’re not only receiving the vital information of where to find the pain in your life, but the tools on how to stop it as well.
For many, family members are triggers to most of their issues, making family therapy a helpful activity, if done correctly. It’s important for every family member to go into therapy with an open mind and the mentality to not just be heard, but to listen and to be open to new and healing experiences.
It can be painful to hear a truthful perspective of yourself from those you love the most, especially if it’s not a completely positive image. What’s important in these moments is to not dwell on the mistakes you’ve made in your past, but to learn from them and correct and heal the bonds that have been broken or strained for so many years. This is where the power of forgiveness truly comes in. Forgiving family members can be an incredibly helpful task, but not nearly as helpful as forgiving yourself.
The concept of forgiveness is often mixed up with the idea that one is permitting bad behavior or allowing one to ‘get away with something’. To think of forgiveness in this sense is petty and almost the complete opposite of what the concept truly aims to achieve. Forgiveness is not only about letting go of resentment, but letting go of the negative energy associated with an instance or memory, so that you can move on.
Normally, people hold on to their resentment, letting it fester and be replayed within their mind which causes deterioration of relationships and misunderstandings.
By forgiving someone on a profound energetic level and releasing the holographic energies or the pictures of the imagined wrong that created the stress or discomfort, you’re not only letting the entire conflict go, but also relieving yourself of future anguish and the potential for inappropriate responses in the future. Forgiving can be a difficult first step and even harder to follow through on, especially if you’re forgiving a family member for doing something that you’ve always seen as unforgivable. For some people, saying ‘I forgive you,’ isn’t enough – but using processes including Hypnotherapy, positive reframing using NLP techniques and strengthening one’s own identity, we can neutralize the pains and become stronger and more effective in dealing with the offending person and our own culpability.
Guided meditation is an effective methodology to provide physiological integrity and psychological wholeness
You may wish to create a forgiveness regimen for yourself. Make sure you’ve got some peace and quiet before you start. Try to lie down either on the bed or the floor, making sure that you are physically comfortable and know that you are somewhere safe, somewhere far away from your worries and reality. Transport your body with your mind and gently release the tensions in your shoulders, your hands and your neck, allowing your breath to guide you into deep relaxation.
When your body is relaxed and loose enough, repeat to yourself quietly and without judgment: “I forgive myself for all the pain that I have caused myself or others.” Take a long pause, as long as you need, and say it a few more times, making sure that each word has as much meaning as the last time you said it.
By doing this practice daily and by intentionally speaking with your family, either through therapeutic sessions or in day to day life with respect and an open heart you may start to discern better rapport with family members who in the past you have not been able to interact with comfortably.
The most important part of forgiveness is to remember to forgive yourself – only then will you truly be able to awaken your life’s full potential, when you can stop focusing on everything that has gone wrong and start admiring all that is right.
In my practice I work with the client to release past pain and forgiveness including self forgiveness is integral to a healthy mindset.