What Is the Meta Model and How It Useful?
THE META MODEL is based on the assumption that as we experience the sensory world we tend to distort delete or generalize information that we receive. The META MODEL provides problem solving strategies, and is a foundation of NLP.
We distort and delete information to avoid being overwhelmed. Paying attention to some experiences and ignoring others is a form of deletion. Deletions can be stereotypes.
We tend to create our own RULES to prioritize and order our lives. We generalize as it is a way of ordering or synthesizing our experiences.
If you can use the Meta Model skillfully you can excel in NLP. The Meta Model is used in an interview process for clarifying questions to understand the thoughts and feelings lying beneath the surface of your own thinking and of others.
There are several Meta Model categories and I will present a few here:
One category is RULES. Some people think in RULES which dominate their lives.
“I must always be on time” “People should always be on time”
“It’s important to get it right” ” Children should be seen and not heard”
The Meta Model can be a tool for listening and understanding another. The Meta Model can encourage a person or client to explore the thinking behind what they are saying. The aim of the Meta Model is to get the client to think about their thinking.
As you establish Rapport with someone it is important to establish the 4R’s
Respect, Recognition, Reassurance and Responsibility
The client needs to feel respected as a unique and valid individual
Recognize both verbal and nonverbal cues
Reassure the client that they are in an emotionally safe place
Responsibility We are learning that we are responsible for how others respond to us and if they are not responding as we wish we vary our communicating until we elicit appropriate responses.
Questions for the client:
What do you desire?
- Put it in positive terms
- The client should start, be in command.
- Precise-Sensory Based – See – Hear – Feel
- Little bits – small portions
- What will that particularly provide for you?
- When will you be aware you’ve got it?
- Decide with whom you want it – Where, as well as, when?
- Make it sensory based and environmentally friendly
- What about the affects on you and the other people in your life?
- What keeps you from getting what you want — now?
- Are there assets you own that might help you reach the final result?
- What else do you need to reach that goal?
- What’s the route you need to take to get there?
- Start with goals that you can achieve
- Be specific
- Try every possible path to realize your dream.
Notes to Meta Model based on Dr. John Grinder
If someone says “We can’t do this”
You say: ” What is the obstacle”
or, “What would happen if we did?”
Explore consequences of what client says he cannot do.
I can’t get the results I am seeking.
What specifically stops you.
(There is an implication of cause and effect which Dr. Grinder does not endorse. We are responsible for our own feelings)